The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.
“I had this misconception I think that it is possible to feel nothing when you speak that confidence means feeling nothing when you speak”
“if I felt nothing I would be chat GPT”
“I think being shy gives you kind of a superpower”
“at the time I was too afraid to go and give them the bread but now it's now it's a superpower because I can say…”
“the problem is not the problem the problem is your solution to the problem”
“instead of learning speaking from the outside in of like these are the skills I need to learn and then I will be confident we…”
“massively a spectrum and I think where it becomes anxiety is where it becomes so debilitating that you can't live your ordinary life”
“do I identify as shy can I push butt could I be something else is it hindering my life”
“if you speak in one emotion one energy level one tone we call that monotone”
“what we're looking for with musicality is a bit of contrast a little bit of movement between the energies”
“that game is about just doing the opposite and training you to start trusting the first thing that comes out of your mouth”
“speak before you think is what they say what we say at alra speaking”
“the important thing about silence is that in that moment of pausing you are unbothered”
“pauses feel like hours to you and Nan seconds to your audience”
“90% of speaking is in the way that you think about yourself”
“I sometimes say to myself what would Michelle Obama do”
“I could not email the lady I wrote it a few times and every time I wrote the email it sounded too demanding too pushy”
“you gave yourself the flu because you couldn't email someone about getting a duvet out of storage it's time for you to get help”
“says Ali abdal is Live on YouTube right so I'm like great I love Ali abdal this will be good quality content”
“I was like I have these things I've had them all along why have I been hiding them”
“I've been asking you about the subject that you seem to be passionate about not once have you smiled”
“I made a rule for myself that every single every single class I would go to or like lecture or anything I had to ask…”
“whenever you go somewhere just raise your hand you don't even know what you're going to say yet just raise your hand and then you…”
“join a club like join a toast CL Toast Masters Club join Ultra speaking go to a place where you can practice speaking in a…”
“ask your close friends what do you like about me”
“I think 50% of my job is just reflecting back what I see to people”
“these games are freely available on ultras.com um you don't need to sign up to the course to play them you can just play them…”
“this game it's all about focusing on the person in front of you staying in the moment and trusting that you can complete their sentence…”
“conviction is such an underrated energy people do not use conviction enough”
“most of us 99% of us are way too far on the wrong scale in terms of conviction”