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Season 2 Round Up18 April 2022

6 Lessons That Improved My Life - Season 2 Round Up

7Frameworks
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Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 2

Myth Buster29:00

Myth: dating apps are just for hookups

hinge is really about getting people off of the app and on to relationships i know that's sort of a tagline but in the two…

Guest · 29:30

they were much more likely 17 more likely to send the person who was looking for a relationship a message because they were like great…

Guest · 30:00
Myth Buster31:00

Myth: apps reduce you to a photo — and men have no chance

there are issues where dating apps can reduce you to this two-dimensional image that people are evaluating and without a lot of context they might…

Guest · 31:30

because if we focus too much on height or age we're actually filtering out a lot of people who could make great potential partners

Guest · 32:30

Hot Take· 2

Hot Take22:00

The hero BS of entrepreneurship: start with more capital, go home at five

i definitely worked 110 hour weeks for like months ground myself down to the point of deep misery and there is no quicker way to…

Guest · 22:30

so i regret not starting with probably twice as much money hiring more people out of the gate and going home at five o'clock

Guest · 23:30
Hot Take53:30

In content and SEO, grind can beat talent

the beauty of like say working on uh e-commerce or creating content or doing whatever is if you put enough hours in you can sometimes…

Guest · 53:30

the beauty of seo is you can see rankings you can check rankings and you know if i just do that a little bit extra…

Guest · 53:30

Explainer· 2

Explainer09:30

Your values change with age, and that's the point

when i was i don't know 19 or 20 i never even envisioned myself as as being a parent i was really focused on my…

Guest · 10:00

when life throws things at you and life changes then you you know what what matters to you changes as well and that's okay you…

Guest · 10:00
Explainer27:30

Your dating profile should tell a story, not list facts

your dating app profile should tell a story it should have variety it should say this is me when i'm with my family and friends…

Guest · 28:00

we don't want to be playing where's wally and wondering which one you are in a different picture

Guest · 28:30

Story· 4

Story33:00

Put your money where your mouth is: incentivise friends to set you up

if you set her up on five dates either five dates with one person or five dates with different people some combination he will send…

Guest · 33:30

i'm serious about getting to know someone if you introduce me to the person i end up in a long-term relationship i will i will…

Ali Abdaal · 34:30
Story41:00

Three C-grades to founder at 36: the late-start career path

i left score at 16 um pretty poor gcses um what did i get three c's maybe these e's got two e's for english i…

Guest · 42:30

i think it's interesting that most people probably think when they get 36 day seven they're sort of stuck in what they're doing yeah they…

Guest · 41:30
Story56:00

Therapy run like a productivity bro: notes, action plan, report back

i kind of treated it like an essay or an assignment or a game or something throughout the whole therapy session i would just be…

Guest · 56:00

i think half of therapy is talking to someone else listening to them having them you know tell you things the other half is you…

Guest · 56:30
Story57:00

Derek Sivers' bike ride: 42 minutes instead of 40

he gets back he looks at the clock and it's 42 minutes and he's like damn was i really huffing and puffing and wearing myself…

Ali Abdaal · 57:30

i'm still achieving the same things i'm just taking it a little bit more relaxed and enjoying myself a little bit more and really the…

Guest · 57:30

Q&A· 2

Q&A12:00

Is my ambition mine, or something society installed in me?

i also didn't come out of the womb thinking i want to i want to get a degree from cambridge so there is some level…

Ali Abdaal · 12:30

it doesn't matter if if it came from someone else if you agree with it

Guest · 13:30
Q&A24:00

Was the grind necessary, or just uninformed?

if i had had the understanding that i have now and a little bit more capital then yes we could have built the same business…

Guest · 25:30

Tool· 1

Tool59:00

Four Thousand Weeks: accepting the finitude of existence

it's it's more it's more like a philosophical approach to time management recognizing that four thousand weeks is roughly the amount of time we have…

Ali Abdaal · 59:00

we recognize that there genuinely isn't enough time for all the important things and therefore something they're just gonna have to be put in the…

Ali Abdaal · 59:30

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway1:00:00

Accept the unanswered messages and the unfinished to-do list

maybe i will lose out on one or two friendships because i was not sufficiently good at replying to whatsapp messages but actually that's okay…

Ali Abdaal · 1:00:30

now i think of it as as long as i just get the most important things done each day it really does not matter if…

Ali Abdaal · 1:01:00
Takeaway1:02:30

Stop worrying about the list, focus on the patient in front of you

don't worry about the list the list is never ending the patients are going to keep coming in and there's nothing you can do about…

Ali Abdaal · 1:02:30

just focus on the patient in front of you and try and make that patient have a great time and then focus on the next…

Ali Abdaal · 1:03:00