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Jonny Miller11 July 2024

How to Master your Nervous System for Productivity and Joy - Jonny Miller

7Frameworks
16Insights

Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 2

Myth Buster52:30

Meditation without a somatic component creates dryness, not enlightenment

a lot of very intellectual people get into meditation and they will still stay in their heads and be almost like ignore everything in the…

Jonny Miller · 52:30

it's not technically true that the body keeps a score but the body is the scorecard I think that's a better way of framing it

Jonny Miller · 53:00
Myth Buster1:28:30

Regulating your nervous system won't cost you your edge

I think people are afraid they're going to lose their Edge because up until now they have been driven by that like anxiety or fear…

Jonny Miller · 1:28:30

the nervous system of an organization is is a mirror or is a reflection of the nervous system of the leader

Jonny Miller · 1:29:30

Hot Take· 1

Hot Take1:24:00

No amount of money will make you feel safe internally

what I would offer is that there's actually no amount of money that will make you feel safe internally

Jonny Miller · 1:24:00

money becomes this thing if I get enough of it I'll feel safe and that story is bollocks

Jonny Miller · 1:26:00

Explainer· 3

Explainer02:00

Nervous system states and the window of tolerance

there are these physiological levers that we can use to upshift or downshift our state depending on what is appropriate

Jonny Miller · 02:00

we have what's known as a window of tolerance so everyone's tolerance is you know bigger or smaller depending on our capacity to be with…

Jonny Miller · 02:30
Explainer17:30

The two modes of reactivity: aggression versus shutdown

one way is like people will go towards anger frustration like aggression and the other is more like collapsing shut down withdrawing and just becoming…

Jonny Miller · 17:30

it is very rare for me to get angry mhm but it's very common for me to get more into that state where I'm just…

Ali Abdaal · 20:00
Explainer36:00

Incomplete reflexes: why suppressed anger comes out kinked

what happens when we make any of these emotional experiences bad or wrong is that kind of cuts it short so it's like this mobilization…

Jonny Miller · 36:30

she's mad at a teacher she's not releasing it at the teacher cuz that would be destructive she's really releasing it in a safe place

Jonny Miller · 37:30

Story· 4

Story21:00

"You are loved in your anger" — the breath work session that broke Miller open

my teacher said to me you are loved in your anger and I just like I like rage came through

Jonny Miller · 21:30

people who have a like a healthy relationship to anger there's also more aliveness more capacity to set boundaries more capacity to say no

Jonny Miller · 21:00
Story38:30

Why Ali won't read his book reviews — and what actually lands

if something actually lands in you that's that's it's like it's like a signpost that there is something in there

Jonny Miller · 40:30

the feeling that we think is bad is actually our resistance to feeling it it's not the feeling itself

Jonny Miller · 42:00
Story43:00

Losing Sophie: the crisis that started the work

I was engaged uh to an amazing actually Junior medic Junior doctor her name was Sophie she had bipolar disorder and on October 23rd 2017…

Jonny Miller · 43:30

I felt so much like joy and Bliss and love and I was like I was confused I was like but wait I meant to…

Jonny Miller · 47:00
Story50:00

Free diving at 40 metres taught him interoception

free diving really connected me to interception which is this word we were talking about where you take a a huge breath of air you…

Jonny Miller · 50:00

in order to get deeper you have to tune into your internal experience and just like soften and relax

Jonny Miller · 50:00

Q&A· 2

Q&A1:04:30

How do you find joy if you have a real job?

there's a belief that I feel strongly about I have conviction in that Joy is actually our default State

Jonny Miller · 1:04:30

the word anxiety the the root or the atmology of that word is to constrict

Jonny Miller · 1:06:00
Q&A1:20:30

Find the feeling beneath the goal — and give it to yourself directly

what is the feeling beneath that that this goal you think this goal would give you but you can actually give yourself in a much…

Jonny Miller · 1:21:00

the first word that comes to mind is safety interestingly because I have in my mind the idea

Ali Abdaal · 1:21:30

Tool· 1

Tool1:30:30

Yoga postures and NSDR as state levers

traditionally yoga was the ASAS was seen as a means of creating the conditions for meditation to be easy

Jonny Miller · 1:30:30

back bends can be activating they stimulate the sympathetic nervous system forward folds especially if they're held for like two or 3 minutes they're very…

Jonny Miller · 1:31:00

Takeaway· 3

Takeaway1:06:30

Emotions last 10 to 20 seconds when you actually feel them

when you're with the sensations the life cycle of these emotions is between 10 to 20 seconds it's really it's short

Jonny Miller · 1:06:30

Joy comes from or emerges on the other side of of being willing to welcome and feel the full spectrum of our Human Experience

Jonny Miller · 1:06:30
Takeaway1:17:00

The fuel source changes: validation at 25, service at 35

there was this sense of like ambition but it was really me trying to prove myself to other people

Jonny Miller · 1:18:00

it's almost like the fuel source got got changed so like when I was younger the fuel source was mostly if I'm honest oriented towards…

Jonny Miller · 1:18:30
Takeaway1:32:30

Run every modality as an experiment — and log the body's data too

keep running those experiments for yourself tracking how it changes your internal State

Jonny Miller · 1:33:00

there's actually four times more neurons going from my body to our brain then from our brain to our body

Jonny Miller · 1:36:30