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Simon Alexander Ong10 February 2023

Life Coach: Why Your Energy Drives Your Success In Life - Simon Alexander Ong

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Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster43:00

The coaching industry is unregulated — so how do you avoid the fakes

“when I'm looking for a coach or Mentor I want to see somebody's track record I also want to have an experience with someone so…”

Simon Alexander Ong · 43:30

“as a coach we can only lead and take people as far as we have gone ourselves”

Simon Alexander Ong · 44:00

Hot Take· 2

Hot Take13:00

Selling feels cringe because you haven't sold yourself to yourself

“the first sale which few of us actually focus on is selling ourselves to ourself”

Simon Alexander Ong · 13:30

“until we can sell ourselves to ourselves of course things are going to feel cringe”

Simon Alexander Ong · 13:30
Hot Take37:30

It's not a question of time, it's a question of importance

“it's not a question of time it's a question of whether it is important to you”

Simon Alexander Ong · 37:30

“it's not question of time it's the question of importance”

Simon Alexander Ong · 38:00

Explainer· 6

Explainer05:00

Coaching vs mentoring: telling you what to do vs asking better questions

“coaching is less about telling you what to do and more about guiding you back to what you already know through the power of questions”

Simon Alexander Ong · 05:30
Explainer06:00

Who actually hires a coach now that it's left the C-suite

“in the past it was probably exclusively in the domain of c-suite executive so people at the higher echelons of management nowadays it's become far…”

Simon Alexander Ong · 06:00

“when there is a coach we're working with we are challenged to become better than who we were yesterday”

Simon Alexander Ong · 06:30
Explainer15:00

Eight seconds of human attention — one less than a goldfish

“I read in the in in the garden a few years ago that the average attention span for a human was eight seconds”

Simon Alexander Ong · 15:00

“how do we get the attention from other people whether that is customers audiences”

Simon Alexander Ong · 15:30
Explainer47:00

Money is a means goal, not an end goal

“money is not an end goal it's a means goal it's it's fuel”

Simon Alexander Ong · 47:00

“you fall into the Trap of lottery winners who when they win the jackpot they end up becoming bankrupt”

Simon Alexander Ong · 47:30
Explainer55:00

What 'energy' and vibrational frequency actually mean in a room

“it's a language that has no words but you and I can feed it”

Simon Alexander Ong · 55:30

“she said when people hear you they may forget who you are they may forget what you say but they will never forget how you…”

Simon Alexander Ong · 59:30
Explainer58:00

Pronoia: the belief the universe is conspiring in your favour

“pronoia is this belief that the universe is conspiring in your favor that life is working for you and not against you”

Simon Alexander Ong · 58:30

Story· 2

Story02:30

From the LSE talk to Goldman Sachs to coaching: how Simon got here

“he had just quit his job at Goldman Sachs to start a career coaching business”

Simon Alexander Ong · 03:00

“I ended up coming back to the fact that I really enjoyed helping people”

Simon Alexander Ong · 04:30
Story1:17:00

Heston Blumenthal and Kylie Flavelle: bypassing the standard route

“if you look at Heston Blumenthal he has become one of the most well-known chefs in the world he's become a TV personality”

Simon Alexander Ong · 1:17:00

“if it's something you really want to do is if you don't like the process to get there how can you be a bit more…”

Simon Alexander Ong · 1:18:30

Q&A· 1

Q&A44:30

Do coaching qualifications actually matter?

“you can have somebody with little to no qualifications yet they have incredible results”

Simon Alexander Ong · 45:00

Tool· 1

Tool08:00

How to find a coach: demand the free experience first

“the greatest gift you can give people before they sign up to you as a client is to give them an experience of what coaching…”

Simon Alexander Ong · 09:00

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway50:30

Be attached to no outcome and open to everything

“be attached to no outcome”

Simon Alexander Ong · 50:30

“one what went well and two what could be better next time”

Simon Alexander Ong · 1:25:30
Takeaway1:28:30

You already won the lottery of life — what will you do with the ticket

“we are all a miracle I mean the fact that we were born is a miracle event in itself”

Simon Alexander Ong · 1:29:00

“what are you going to do with that winning ticket of yours”

Simon Alexander Ong · 1:29:30