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Simone Stolzoff15 August 2024

Life’s Meaning Outside of Work - Simone Stolzoff

3Frameworks
14Insights

Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 2

Myth Buster18:00

Netflix won't give you meaning — active hobbies will

if you want to derive meaning from things Beyond work you have to do things other than work

Simone Stolzoff · 18:00

it's not going to be a source of meaning in the same way that an active hobby like guitar playing or learning a new language…

Simone Stolzoff · 18:30
Myth Buster38:00

Don't turn leisure into another quantified form of labour

in many ways they try and turn their Leisure into another Quantified form of Labor

Simone Stolzoff · 38:30

why don't you start small why don't you start with a run or why don't you start with reading one book or devoting 15 minutes…

Simone Stolzoff · 38:30

Hot Take· 2

Hot Take05:30

'Always do what you love' treats a normal job as moral failure

I was just driving through London today and I saw a Wei work and it said always do what you love plastered on the side…

Simone Stolzoff · 05:30

if you haven't found your dream job if you haven't found what you love you should keep searching keep trying because it's some sort of…

Simone Stolzoff · 05:30
Hot Take45:30

Work is a false idol: the David Foster Wallace falsifiability argument

pray to beauty and you'll feel like you'll you're never beautiful enough pray to money and you feel like you'll never have enough money

Simone Stolzoff · 46:00

work is extremely falsifiable maybe the algorithm changes

Simone Stolzoff · 46:00

Explainer· 2

Explainer04:00

Why work swallowed identity: the institutions that used to do the job

in 1950s over nine out of every 10 Americans belonged to some sort of organized religion which provided purpose something larger than themselves Community a…

Simone Stolzoff · 04:30

without these institutions the need for belonging for meaning for purpose for identity remain and many people have turned to where they spend the majority…

Simone Stolzoff · 04:30
Explainer39:00

Michael Phelps and the arrival problem: what's left after the biggest dream?

after he won more gold medals than any other Olympian he fell into this pit of depression and I think the cause was that he…

Simone Stolzoff · 39:00

once you reach the peak of one Hill you might be just continually searching for the next one

Simone Stolzoff · 39:30

Story· 3

Story07:30

The poet who told a 22-year-old it's fine to have a day job

he said you know Simone I think some people do what they love for work and others do what they have to for work so…

Simone Stolzoff · 08:00

here was my professional Idol a professional poet no less telling me that it's okay to have a day job

Simone Stolzoff · 08:30
Story09:30

Ali's idle Saturday: not knowing what to do with free time

I'm so used to working and working to me feels so enjoyable and so purposeful and so like you know flow sty and stuff when…

Ali Abdaal · 10:00

sometimes people who are ambitious people who are really looking for that vocational soulmate get in this Loop where they work all the time and…

Simone Stolzoff · 09:00
Story40:00

The Wall Street ladder that ended in stress-related alopecia

he continually had this sort of defer happiness mentality

Simone Stolzoff · 40:00

here's a man who has every trapping of success he has all of what journalist David Brooks would call the the resume virtues

Simone Stolzoff · 41:30

Q&A· 2

Q&A06:00

Do you look forward to Mondays — and to what you go home to?

so one question I often used to think about is asking people with jobs the question of do you look forward to Mondays

Ali Abdaal · 06:00

I also think the question of do you look forward to whatever you're going home to at the end of the work day on Monday…

Simone Stolzoff · 09:00
Q&A55:30

'What do I want to do?' is a question that takes privilege to ask

the question itself of what do I want to do or what do I want to do most is a question that takes a certain…

Simone Stolzoff · 56:00

but the majority of people globally don't work because because they want to they work because they have to

Simone Stolzoff · 56:00

Takeaway· 3

Takeaway42:00

Aim at the intersection of what the market values and what you value

we see the value of thinking about what the market values in one hand the value of thinking about we what we ourselves value on…

Simone Stolzoff · 42:30

too many people just think about what the market values without consulting what they themselves value as well

Simone Stolzoff · 43:00
Takeaway52:00

Esther Perel: the best of ourselves goes to work, the leftovers go home

she said too many people bring the best of themselves to work and bring the leftovers home

Simone Stolzoff · 52:30

if we are able to invest in our families our community ities our countries then it's not just our own sense of meaning that we'll…

Simone Stolzoff · 51:30
Takeaway1:00:30

Three questions to ask if all your eggs are in the work basket

I would also return to what do you say that you value and how does how you spend your time reflect or not reflect how…

Simone Stolzoff · 1:01:00

the third is just thinking in a broad sense of regret minimization what are the things that you might be thinking on your deathbed that…

Simone Stolzoff · 1:01:00