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Louise Perry13 April 2023

Louise Perry: The Case Against The Sexual Revolution

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Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 2

Myth Buster12:30

Why sex is not psychologically equivalent to playing squash

people don't care if their Partners go and play squash with someone else people care deeply if their Partners have sex with someone else

Louise Perry · 14:00
Myth Buster1:35:00

Why consent workshops do not educate would-be rapists

sex rape is not a consequence of misinformation or misunderstanding generally I think it is a consequence of sexual aggression combined with opportunity right

Louise Perry · 1:36:00

Hot Take· 3

Hot Take1:11:00

The sexual revolution mainly rewards high-status men

the people who've actually won from the sexual Revolution are high status men not necessarily all men

Louise Perry · 1:11:00

the sexual revolution has been good for a minority of men who are able to enjoy its fruits

Louise Perry · 1:16:30
Hot Take1:40:00

Risk reduction and the charge of victim blaming

a man who raped a drunk woman is the only person at fault in that scenario

Louise Perry · 1:41:30

it should be possible for women to do to do anything in public and to be completely safe from predators but the fact is that…

Louise Perry · 1:42:30
Hot Take1:52:30

BDSM normalization, choking, and reinforced arousal

I can accept in theory that there are people who genuinely do it with absolute consent and are entirely responsible and there is really no…

Louise Perry · 1:56:00

if you are um inscribing in your own mind the fact that choking is your thing choking turns you on you're gonna like want more…

Louise Perry · 1:59:30

Explainer· 6

Explainer04:30

How sex positivity can become socially compulsory

the problem is that it Shades very easily into actually being into these things actually becoming almost compulsory

Louise Perry · 05:00

what sex positive feminism does in practice even if not in theory is it provides provides cover for a culture that is actually very coercive

Louise Perry · 05:30
Explainer20:30

Sex-for-rent exposes the contradictions around prostitution

you're just exchanging one form of economic good for another

Louise Perry · 21:30

how can you possibly say that it's fine as long as it's cash it just doesn't make sense to me cash can be exchanged for…

Louise Perry · 22:00
Explainer34:30

Why average sex differences matter for population-level norms

on an individual level people might make decisions unique to their situation and that would be fine

Louise Perry · 38:30

a man hitting a woman is much more likely to kill her than a woman hitting a man because most men can kill most women…

Louise Perry · 40:00
Explainer47:00

Sociosexuality and the unequal appeal of casual sex

the trait that's most relevant to me and that I write about most in most detail in the book is what psychologists call sociosexuality so…

Louise Perry · 51:00

a lot of women are trying pretty hard to have sex like men and are being quite strongly encouraged by the culture

Louise Perry · 53:00
Explainer1:02:30

Sexual disgust and men's two relationship modes

the fact that women sexual disgust threshold is a lot lower than men's

Louise Perry · 1:03:00

men have a low bar when it comes to Casual sexual partners

Louise Perry · 1:07:00
Explainer2:03:00

Dating-app anonymity removes consequences for bad behavior

the apps they tend to encourage a sort of anonymous Vibe which encourages bad behavior

Louise Perry · 2:05:00

if you don't have any link to anyone like there are basically no consequences if you misbehave

Louise Perry · 2:05:00

Story· 1

Story1:29:30

Frontline lessons from working at a rape crisis centre

a step parent is about a hundred times more likely to abuse a child than a biological parent it's called the Cinderella effect

Louise Perry · 1:31:30

the modal rape victim is 15.

Louise Perry · 1:32:30

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway2:07:30

Channel youthful male aggression instead of suppressing it

you can't suppress that and I don't think you I don't think it's wise to try but you can Channel it in Positive Directions

Louise Perry · 2:08:00

it's a way of like taking that instinct towards fighting and being like destructive and energetic and whatever and and taming it

Louise Perry · 2:08:30
Takeaway2:15:00

Do not let ideology train you to ignore distress

it really discourages women from listening to their instincts

Louise Perry · 2:15:30

if your instinctive response is any kind of distress any ideology that tells you that you shouldn't be listening to that is not a good…

Louise Perry · 2:16:00