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Matthew Dicks20 April 2023

Someday Is Today: Achieve Your Goals And Live Without Regret - Matthew Dicks

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13Insights

Frameworks in this episode

Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster41:00

Why the five-year plan is useless

I love people who tell me they have a five-year plan I think it's just stupidest thing

Matthew Dicks · 41:00

imagine five years ago if you had said what my Five-Year Plan is you would never have guessed where you are today

Matthew Dicks · 41:00

Hot Take· 2

Hot Take10:30

Appearance versus performance at work

if you're producing results and you are productive and profitable and your people are succeeding nobody will care if you look tired

Matthew Dicks · 11:00

no one has hired you for what you look like

Matthew Dicks · 11:00
Hot Take21:30

Productivity is dream-oriented, not grinding

I like to think that productivity is really dream oriented that everyone should have a dream

Matthew Dicks · 21:30

choose the right dream and then productivity will make total sense to you

Matthew Dicks · 24:00

Explainer· 2

Explainer06:00

The spotlight effect: nobody remembers what you wore

no one pays as much attention to you as you think they do

Matthew Dicks · 06:30

I can't even remember what my husband was wearing that night

Matthew Dicks · 08:30
Explainer1:38:00

Recapturing the hour: auditing wind-down and sleep time

the eight hours of sleep is probably seven hours of sleep and one hour of occupying the bed in a non-productive way

Matthew Dicks · 1:38:30

an hour even over the course of a year is 365 hours divide that by 24 you suddenly found days of your life

Matthew Dicks · 1:40:00

Story· 5

Story52:30

Robbed at gunpoint at 22: the only feeling was regret

the only feeling I was consumed with was regret

Matthew Dicks · 53:00

I instantly understood that I was 22 years old and I had failed to do anything with my life that I had wanted to do

Matthew Dicks · 53:30
Story32:00

The guitar goal that became a ukulele in a kindergarten class

my wife wanted to play the guitar and then she quickly realized you know what the ukulele is better than the guitar

Matthew Dicks · 32:00
Story38:30

His wife proves the overnight storytelling win took 23 years

you don't think the fact that you've been writing stories ever since you were 17 that you've written every single day of your life since…

Matthew Dicks · 39:00

it's that like work you're doing that you don't realize you're doing that might someday pile into something that changes your life

Matthew Dicks · 40:00
Story1:25:00

Two near-death experiences that changed nothing

but I didn't feel any regret because I didn't know at the moment that I was dying

Matthew Dicks · 1:28:00

but they didn't change my life I did not change my life at 12 and I did not change my life at 17

Matthew Dicks · 1:28:30
Story1:29:00

Homeless, wrongly jailed, then two degrees at once

after you're homeless and in jail and you have a gun to your head and you think you're going to be in prison for 10…

Matthew Dicks · 1:31:30

she says that's like a loophole that you're exploiting and I said yes now you understand

Matthew Dicks · 1:33:00

Q&A· 1

Q&A50:00

Striving for the next thing versus enjoying the present

it is the pursuit of the next thing that is so joyous to me

Matthew Dicks · 51:00

I see sort of complacency and satisfaction as stagnation and death

Matthew Dicks · 51:00

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway41:30

It's easier to change direction when you're moving

I would just pick something and start moving in that direction because it's a lot easier to change direction when you're moving than when you're…

Ali Abdaal · 41:30
Takeaway43:00

Just post it — if it's bad, take it down

and they're like well what if it's bad I said then take it down

Matthew Dicks · 43:00

we just move on with our lives right we don't worry about the failures

Matthew Dicks · 43:30