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Natacha Océane29 November 2021

Why You Shouldn't Be Afraid To Quit - Natacha Océane

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Hot Take· 3

Hot Take20:49

The thought of quitting mid-effort never crosses her mind

Asked what she tells herself when the urge to stop hits mid-run, Océane says the thought simply never arrives — not in a race, not even at the gym. She also points out a training effect on perception: once long runs are routine, shorter distances genuinely feel shorter in your head.

  • Quitting mid-effort does not register as an available option for her
  • She cannot explain where the trait comes from
  • Training long distances compresses how far shorter distances feel
  • A marathon reads as 'double' when 20km runs are routine
  • She calls this a form of mind training, not just physical adaptation

That thought never crosses my mind that I could just quit.

Natacha Océane · 20:49

the more you train for something, the shorter distances feel.

Natacha Océane · 20:49
#mental-resilience#running#endurance
Hot Take31:33

Being forced to specialise at 14 is bad preparation for real work

Océane criticises the UK education system for funnelling students into a specialism from around age 14, when they have no basis for the choice. She argues the world rewards multiple skills, and says she has personally done better by not being specialised.

  • GCSE and A-level choices lock in a direction from about age 14
  • Work experience and volunteering get geared to a decision made too early
  • Modern work rewards breadth over deep single-track specialisation
  • She contrasts this with her original plan: PhD, postdoc, professor
  • Ali notes doctors in particular often question a choice made a decade earlier

I don't think the education system here helps us much because you have to start specialising when you're 14

Natacha Océane · 31:33

I think I've done better not being specialised than being specialised.

Natacha Océane · 31:47
#education#specialisation#career#uk
Hot Take52:31

Why she refuses to sexualise her content: it's a short-term game

Asked whether she feels the pull of the aesthetic that performs on fitness Instagram, Océane says she notices it but is not tempted. Eye candy has a short shelf life; a feeling lasts longer than admiration. Because she is playing a long game, she has made a deliberate effort never to go down that route.

  • She notices which posts do well and why, without being drawn in
  • Showing more skin is framed as a short-term play with a short payoff
  • Depth of content is what creates longevity for a personal brand
  • She wants viewers to feel good, not merely to admire
  • Longevity concerns matter more to her than near-term view counts

But in the long, I think the thing about me is I always play the long game.

Natacha Océane · 52:31

Which is why I don't over sexualize myself as well

Natacha Océane · 50:57
#personal-brand#longevity#fitness-industry#instagram

Explainer· 1

Explainer1:04:19

Where her video ideas come from, and why she won't stay in the fitness box

Océane sources ideas from three places: situational events in her own life such as a back injury, new scientific papers she finds interesting, and adjacent fields she deliberately keeps an eye on. She pushes back on standard niche-down advice, arguing that boxing yourself into fitness narrows you as a creator, and uses collaborations to widen the space.

  • Life events become videos — a back injury she never planned to discuss
  • She keeps up with papers and follows anything unusual she spots
  • Wellness, lifestyle, productivity and business angles are all fair game
  • Refuses to define herself solely as a fitness creator
  • Occasionally frames or markets a vlog so it doesn't feel like a jarring shift
  • Collaborations help widen the range of content

I think the thing that I try and do is I try not to put myself in a box.

Natacha Océane · 1:04:19

I like to keep up to date with the science.

Natacha Océane · 1:04:19
#ideation#niche#content-strategy#science

Story· 5

Story01:36

Why sign up for an Ironman: refusing to set limits for yourself

Natacha Océane explains that her attraction to Ironman came from a resistance to setting limits on herself. Anything that makes other people say 'that's a brutal challenge' is exactly what she wants to sign up for. She traces it back to a childhood where the family kept everyone active and outdoors rather than indoors on computer games.

  • The draw is the challenge, not the race result
  • She treats 'I can't do that' as the reason to attempt it
  • Grew up in a very active family with no computer games
  • Chronic shin splints from athletics pushed her into low-impact cross-training
  • Nine months of pool and cycling work became her gateway into triathlon

there's something about not setting limits that drives me to want to just keep going and going and going.

Natacha Océane · 01:36

I feel like sometimes we can be really prone to setting limits for ourselves

Natacha Océane · 01:36
#ironman#mindset#triathlon#limits
Story15:54

Racing Barcelona Ironman on a patchwork bike and a skateboard helmet

Océane describes turning up to her first Ironman as a student who could barely afford the entry fee, surrounded by people with thousands of pounds of equipment. Her bike was assembled from donated parts around a £250 eBay carbon frame, and her helmet was a skateboard helmet because aero helmets were unaffordable. The kit gap was intimidating, but the event itself turned out to be a genuinely enjoyable day.

  • Carbon frame found on eBay for around £250, wired together with her coach
  • Tyres and wheels donated piecemeal by other people
  • A skateboard helmet stood in for an aero helmet
  • Expensive kit on the start line was intimidating but irrelevant to the day
  • Crowds still cheering at the 30km mark gave her energy training never could

my bike was a real like, like a patchwork quilt of just people giving me a tire here, a wheel here

Natacha Océane · 15:54

my helmet was a skateboard helmet, because that's the most aerodynamic thing.

Natacha Océane · 15:54
#ironman#budget#race-day#story
Story24:37

The film festival that ended her PhD

Six months into a biophysics PhD, Océane went to the Banff Mountain Film Festival and, for the first time, asked whether she actually enjoyed what she was doing. It took another six months to process, but she concluded she was there for the university's reputation and the title. She also names the day-to-day problem: PhD work turned her into an engineer of mass spectrometry rather than the biochemist she wanted to be.

  • She had never questioned her own happiness before that evening
  • Would have cried if anyone had asked how she was during undergrad
  • PhD work meant six months optimising a single experiment
  • She resented losing the broad biochemistry she loved
  • Professors were embarrassed and the university looked down on her leaving

I sat there and I was like, do I actually enjoy what I'm doing?

Natacha Océane · 24:37

I don't think I'm doing the right thing.

Natacha Océane · 24:37
#phd#career-change#academia#self-awareness
Story34:20

The first year and a half of hiding behind the camera

Océane's first video was a Halloween fitness skit filmed at a budget gym at midnight, and she has since taken it down. For roughly eighteen months she was too camera-shy to speak on video, so her early uploads were three-minute silent edits of food being prepared. Only after that did viewers start commenting that her personality was coming through.

  • First upload was a midnight Halloween gym skit she has deleted
  • Early 'what I eat in a day' videos were three minutes with no talking
  • She could not have anyone else in the room while filming pieces to camera
  • Around 18 months in, comments noted her personality finally showing
  • The mission to correct fitness misinformation outweighed the discomfort

the early days were beyond cringe.

Natacha Océane · 34:20

I couldn't have anyone else in the room whilst I talked to a camera

Natacha Océane · 36:22
#youtube#camera-confidence#beginnings
Story38:05

No single breakout video: how the channel actually grew

Océane started in 2016 and grew slowly. One cheat day challenge — a format she made because it travels, not because she wanted to — hit around a million views and delivered her first 10,000 subscribers. Beyond that, growth was stepwise rather than explosive, which she says she is grateful for.

  • Started in 2016 with maybe 15 videos by year end
  • A cheat day challenge did around a million views and brought her first 10k
  • No single video ever launched the channel
  • Gradual growth let her get to know her audience as it formed
  • She still replies to as many comments as possible to stay close to viewers

I did a cheat day challenge that got I think a million views or something. And that grew me my first 10k

Natacha Océane · 38:05

I never had like a one video that just everything took off from there.

Natacha Océane · 38:05
#youtube-growth#audience#subscribers

Q&A· 1

Q&A1:11:32

Success doesn't come without sacrifice — but hard work isn't the same as smart work

Asked for one tip for someone chasing success, Océane says be prepared to work hard and to sacrifice, because she doesn't believe success comes without it. She then qualifies it: a conversation with a close cousin who never saw her made the cost visible, and she notes that when she was younger she worked extremely hard but appallingly inefficiently.

  • She treats sacrifice as a precondition of success, not an optional extra
  • A cousin telling her 'I never see you' made the cost concrete
  • Young-Natacha worked hard but wildly inefficiently
  • Working smart means spending time on the right things, not more things
  • Abdaal frames the resolution as knowing what you are optimising for

I don't think success comes without sacrifice.

Natacha Océane · 1:11:32

So I think being really smart with how you work and spending time doing the right things.

Natacha Océane · 1:13:05
#success#sacrifice#hard-work#efficiency

Tool· 1

Tool1:16:44

A 13-year diary habit as a thinking tool, not a journaling routine

Asked for a material item under £100 she couldn't live without, Océane names her diary. She kept one strictly from about age five to eighteen and now writes only when she is feeling something strongly. The value is that handwriting slows thinking down, and that nobody will ever read it, so she can be brutally honest with herself.

  • Kept a strict diary from roughly age five to eighteen
  • Now writes episodically rather than daily — not a journaling practice
  • Handwriting slows the thought process compared with typing
  • Privacy is what makes real honesty possible
  • She finds re-reading the old volumes striking, and the writing itself therapeutic

I used to keep a diary from when I was about five to 18

Natacha Océane · 1:16:46

Especially because the process of writing like really slows down.

Natacha Océane · 1:17:21
#journaling#reflection#tools#habits

Takeaway· 5

Takeaway12:37

Why she takes no fulfilment from goals outside her control

Ali Abdaal raises the tension between process goals and outcome goals like subscriber counts or KPIs. Océane's position is that she simply does not draw fulfilment from results she cannot control, because a hit could just as easily be luck. If something lands, great; if it doesn't, it doesn't affect her.

  • Outcome goals like KPIs and viral hits are only marginally influenceable
  • A win you cannot attribute to your own work is not a win worth celebrating
  • She declines to let uncontrollable outcomes affect her mood
  • In her first Ironman she aimed only to complete it and was shocked to come second

I don't get my fulfilment out of goals that can't be that are out of my control.

Natacha Océane · 13:21

I wasn't even really going in to do a race. I just wanted to complete it.

Natacha Océane · 12:08
#goals#control#youtube#fulfilment
Takeaway44:32

Save your best idea until your skills can do it justice

Ali Abdaal describes deliberately saving his evidence-based study tips video until roughly his hundredth upload, because he knew his early skills would waste the idea. Océane does the same for different reasons: she holds videos until the budget and equipment exist, and treats each one as a single shot because she will not remake a topic.

  • Abdaal held his strongest idea until skill level could match it
  • Océane waits for the right circumstances — drone footage, an Olympic pool, budget
  • The Ironman video waited years for the right production conditions
  • She aims for timeless science explainers she never has to redo
  • As a creative she refuses to repeat the same topic twice

But that needs to be like my 100th video rather than my first video because I'm just not good enough at the video thing to…

Ali Abdaal · 44:32

there are times now where I hold something back.

Natacha Océane · 45:00
#content-strategy#youtube#ideas#production
Takeaway53:54

Advice for new creators: your first 100 videos will be bad, post them anyway

Océane's advice to graduates thinking about becoming creators is to start from genuine passion, stop worrying what other people think, and accept that the first ten or hundred videos will be poor. Almost nobody sees them anyway — their value is proving to yourself that you actually did the thing rather than talked about it. She also warns against comparing yourself to outlier growth stories.

  • Passion supplies the purpose that generic content creation lacks
  • Worrying about other people's opinions only holds you back
  • Early videos are bad for everyone and barely get seen
  • Their real function is proving you followed through
  • Outlier stories like overnight millions distort expectations
  • Set up an environment where you can actually be creative

don't worry about the first 10 100 videos being shipped because they will ship their ship for everyone.

Natacha Océane · 53:54

The truth is that these things take a really long time, and you have to be prepared for it to take a long time.

Natacha Océane · 53:54
#creator-advice#getting-started#youtube#consistency
Takeaway1:01:29

Why she stays off social media despite working in it

Océane deliberately limits her own social media consumption because it does not make her feel good and because absorbing too much from her own field clouds her judgement. She argues that creators who watch each other converge into sameness, which destroys the reason a follower chose them in the first place. Instead she uses content that makes her feel bad as a template for what not to make.

  • She knows consumption doesn't make her feel good and acts on it
  • Watching the same field too closely clouds her creative judgement
  • Creators who copy each other become indistinguishable
  • She reverse-engineers 'anti-content' from posts that feel bad
  • She keeps a small set of accounts whose vibe feels like a breath of fresh air

seeing too many things, especially in a similar field, starts to cloud my judgement

Natacha Océane · 1:01:29

you followed a person for a reason. If everyone feels the same, you've ruined it for everyone.

Natacha Océane · 1:01:29
#social-media#originality#creativity#wellbeing
Takeaway1:18:51

Three book recommendations and the mantra she lives by

Océane recommends The One Thing by Gary Keller, Mastery by Robert Greene and Quiet, which she connects to her own introversion. She argues Quiet is especially relevant to social media, where people speak with total confidence about things they don't know. Her mantra comes from Eleanor Roosevelt.

  • Recommends The One Thing (Gary Keller), Mastery (Robert Greene) and Quiet
  • Identifies as an introvert, which shapes the Quiet recommendation
  • Criticises confident social-media commentary from people without expertise
  • She refuses to speak on topics she doesn't know
  • Lives by an Eleanor Roosevelt line about how rarely others think about you

There's one from Eleanor Roosevelt, which is it goes along the lines of You wouldn't worry so much about what others think about you if…

Natacha Océane · 1:19:42

If you don't know about something, you shouldn't be speaking about something.

Natacha Océane · 1:19:10
#books#mantra#introversion#social-media