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02 November 2023

Stop Wasting Your Life: A Guide To Unlocking Your Full Potential I Entrepreneur Jodie Cook

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The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster10:00

The two conveyor belts that quietly choose your life for you

Cook argues we're conditioned onto two default paths without questioning them: the education conveyor belt (GCSEs, A-levels, university, graduate scheme) and then the career conveyor belt (get a job, climb the ladder). It only becomes clear the path was wrong ten years later. Escaping it means being happy to look different, make odd decisions, and risk looking stupid.

  • The first belt is education; the second is climbing the career ladder
  • You rarely question either because everyone around you is on them
  • Whether it was right only becomes obvious about ten years on
  • Getting off requires being okay with looking different and possibly failing
  • Something other than the default path might be right for you

the first conveyor belt that we get on is the education conveyor belt... and then after that it's the career conveyor belt and that's where…

Jodie Cook · 10:00
#career#conditioning#conformity#entrepreneurship

Hot Take· 1

Hot Take15:00

Most people aren't scared of failure, they're scared of success

Cook flips the usual assumption: many people who think they fear failure actually fear success. They worry they won't be able to handle a new level, will have to change, and that friends in their safe bubble might reject them or say they've got too big for their boots. That hidden fear drives self-sabotage and avoiding the things they know would work.

  • People believe they won't cope with a new level of success
  • Success forces you to change, which can feel threatening
  • Peers in your current bubble may reject the new version of you
  • The fear leads to self-sabotage and not doing what works
  • Applies to things like a YouTube channel suddenly taking off

I actually think a lot of people think they're scared of failure but I think a lot of people are actually scared of success

Jodie Cook · 15:00
#fear-of-success#self-sabotage#psychology#mindset

Explainer· 5

Explainer12:00

Entrepreneurship is a game of constant reframing

Cook describes entrepreneurship as more stuff getting thrown at you than anything else: clients come and go, team churns, fires burn daily. The skill is reframing so each fire bothers you less, then handling bigger ones. She cites a Mad Men partner asking 'are you going to walk up the hall every time we lose a client?' and Justine Musk's line about getting comfortable with stress that would break most people.

  • You'll be putting out many fires every single day
  • The game is getting okay with the fire, then handling bigger ones
  • It builds a mental toughness people don't anticipate
  • Mad Men: don't wear the carpet out pacing over every lost client
  • Justine Musk: get comfortable with stress that would break most people

someone recently described entrepreneurship to me as a game of constant reframing

Jodie Cook · 12:00

are you going to walk up the hall every time we lose a client like you'll wear the carpet out

Jodie Cook · 13:00
#resilience#stress#mindset#entrepreneurship
Explainer23:00

Agency vs software: what actually changes when you switch models

Having built an agency and now running Coach Fox AI, Cook contrasts the two. In an agency you can invent an offer and sell it before you build it; software is front-end loaded because you must build before you sell. Agency clients are worth thousands and you scale headcount with clients; software clients are worth $99 a month, which reshapes the whole relationship.

  • Agency: sell first, deliver after; software: build first, then sell
  • Agencies scale headcount (or ad spend) as clients grow, creating friction
  • Agency clients worth thousands vs software clients worth ~$99/month
  • She still instinctively over-cares when a small software client cancels
  • A common path is using agency revenue to fund building software products

in agency you can make something up and you can sell it straight away... in software you probably shouldn't do that

Jodie Cook · 25:00
#business-models#agency#saas#scaling
Explainer1:02:30

Menu psychology: the pricing tricks restaurants use on you

From researching her book and working in an Italian restaurant, Cook shares how menus are engineered to make you spend. The most expensive item sits top-right, where your eye lands first, to make everything else look cheap. Currency symbols and decimals are removed so you don't think about money, numbers don't line up so you can't compare, and the second-cheapest wine carries the biggest margin.

  • Most expensive item goes top-right to anchor everything else as cheap
  • No currency symbols, because they make you think of money and tighten up
  • Avoid lined-up numbers so diners can't easily compare and pick cheapest
  • People avoid the cheapest wine to not look cheap, so #2 has the best margin
  • The restaurant even played 'music to watch customers buy' to prime spending

the most expensive item goes in the top right because that's where your eyes go first the purpose of that item is to make everything…

Jodie Cook · 1:03:30
#pricing#psychology#persuasion#marketing
Explainer1:07:30

Mimetic desire: are your goals actually yours?

Cook and Abdaal explore how we copy what others want without questioning it, picking up accents, and goals, within an hour of conversation. Abdaal cites Luke Burgess's Wanting: thick desires build over a long time and feel truly yours, while thin desires (like wanting to 10x after meeting eight-figure founders) are volatile. His team now ignore everything he says for three days after a trip.

  • We adopt others' desires to avoid being excluded from the group
  • Thick desires build over time and feel authentically yours
  • Thin desires shift based on who you just spent time with
  • Abdaal's team ignore his ideas for three days after he travels
  • Choose who you spend time with, because it shapes what you want

whenever Alie comes back from a trip we're just going to ignore everything he says for at least three days because chances are he's going…

Ali Abdaal · 1:10:00
#mimetic-desire#goals#self-knowledge#influence
Explainer1:06:30

Use your default mode network to let answers find you

Cook explains the default mode network as how your mind solves problems when you're not actively thinking, accessible only in theta rather than beta brain waves. She cites Edison napping with a metal ball to catch ideas and Julia Cameron's daily walk where inspiration arrived. Because we're never bored, we stay in beta and never tap this powerful part of the brain.

  • The default mode network works when you're not actively thinking
  • It only engages in theta brain waves, not beta
  • Edison napped holding a metal ball to catch ideas as he dozed off
  • Ideas arrive in the shower or on a walk for the same reason
  • Constant stimulation keeps us in beta and blocks this mode

your default mode network is how your mind figures out information when you're not actively thinking about it

Jodie Cook · 1:16:30
#creativity#neuroscience#focus#ideas

Story· 3

Story06:00

Starting a business at 22 with a two-word plan: get clients

Cook launched her social media agency in 2011 with no business plan beyond 'get clients'. She rocked up to networking events, stood up and announced she was a social media manager, and convinced people to hire her. At her first prospect meeting she leaned on her dad's sales mantra, then turned the first client into a case study to win clients two and three.

  • Started at 22 with no plan other than 'get clients'
  • Won work by standing up at networking events and pitching herself
  • Social media was so niche in 2011 that few competitors existed
  • Used her dad's line: knowledge instills confidence, confidence instills enthusiasm, enthusiasm sells
  • Turned client one into a case study to land clients two and three

knowledge instills confidence confidence instills enthusiasm and enthusiasm sells cars and vans... I was selling social media management but it's no different

Jodie Cook · 07:00
#startup-story#sales#networking#agency
Story17:30

Shrinking 25% in a week, then asking 'how can I use this?'

In March 2020 Cook's agency shrank 25% in one week as hospitality, travel and events clients cancelled. Instead of panicking, she asked what she calls life's most important question: 'how can I use this?' Inspired by peers pivoting fast, she rallied the team to pour spare capacity into courses, webinars and nurturing the middle of the funnel, growing the company back and beyond within five months.

  • Lost a quarter of the company in a single week of COVID cancellations
  • Reframed with the question 'how can I use this?'
  • Was inspired by a friend who rebranded overnight to 'presenting virtually'
  • Redirected spare capacity into courses, daily webinars and email nurture
  • Recovered and grew ~20% within five months, keeping clients who returned

I think that probably the most important question just in life is how can I use this

Jodie Cook · 18:00
#pivot#crisis-management#covid#resilience
Story1:32:00

Gottman's masters vs disasters and the heart-rate test for relationships

Cook recounts John Gottman's love-lab study, which labelled couples 'masters' or 'disasters' and predicted with ~99% accuracy who'd stay together. The biggest indicator of relationship longevity was resting heart rate around each other: too much cortisol and fight-or-flight can't sustain long term. Cook applies it to team members too, asking how not to put people into constant fight-or-flight.

  • Gottman labelled couples 'masters' or 'disasters' in his love lab
  • He predicted who stayed together with roughly 99% accuracy
  • The top longevity indicator was resting heart rate around each other
  • High cortisol and fight-or-flight can't survive the long term
  • Cook applies it to leadership: don't keep your team in fight-or-flight

the biggest indicator of relationship longevity was resting heart rate when you're around each other and it's all to do with fight or flight

Jodie Cook · 1:33:30
#relationships#gottman#leadership#psychology

Q&A· 1

Q&A22:00

Would she still start a social media agency today? Yes, but niche hard

Asked whether an SMMA is still worth starting, Cook says yes because it needs almost no startup capital, just knowledge, enthusiasm, confidence and a way to get in front of clients. In 2011 social media was so niche she served everyone on every platform. Today she'd niche down aggressively, becoming the recognised expert in something like 'LinkedIn for dentists' or 'Twitter for carpet cleaners'.

  • Agencies are cheap to start: knowledge and enthusiasm over capital
  • In 2011 social media itself was the niche, so no further focus was needed
  • Today she'd niche extremely tightly by platform and client type
  • Examples: LinkedIn for dentists, Twitter for carpet cleaners
  • Goal is to be known as the expert in one narrow area

if I was starting it now I would Niche down so much I would be like LinkedIn for dentists or Twitter for carpet cleaners

Jodie Cook · 22:30
#agency#niche#positioning#smma

Tool· 2

Tool26:00

AI clones of thought leaders and the vendetta against dusty content

Cook's software company Coach Fox AI lets creators configure an AI coach trained on their content, personality and frameworks, tuned with style sliders. Audiences chat with it for guidance, so creators use it as a lead-gen tool, a paid product, or a membership value-add. Her framing: a 'vendetta against dusty content', turning your archive into something that answers each person's specific problem.

  • Creators upload content and set style sliders (coaching/funny/formal)
  • The AI answers audience questions in the creator's voice and frameworks
  • Used as lead generation, a paid subscription, or membership add-on
  • Reframes buried old content around the reader's specific problem
  • Kept explicitly labelled as AI; separation from the real person matters

we are on a massive Vendetta against Dusty content... once you train an AI model on your content and your Frameworks and your personality it…

Jodie Cook · 27:30
#ai#creators#lead-generation#content
Tool57:30

Inbox zero for WhatsApp and a voice-note personal CRM

Cook shares two systems. For overwhelming WhatsApp, configure it so all chats archive and only new messages appear, treating the inbox like a to-do list you batch and swipe to archive once the ball's in their court. For relationships, after seeing someone she records a five-minute voice note on what they discussed and how she felt, which doubles as an energy audit of who's worth seeing again.

  • Archive all WhatsApp chats so only new messages hit your inbox
  • Treat the inbox as a batch-processed to-do list, swipe to archive when done
  • After meeting someone, record a five-minute voice note on the way out
  • Replay it before you next meet them to remember and progress the relationship
  • Notice how you feel afterwards to spot who gives versus drains energy

you can configure it so that all your chats are archived and only new messages come into your WhatsApp inbox and then it means that…

Jodie Cook · 57:30
#productivity#inbox-zero#relationships#systems

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway1:00:30

Everything is sales, and sales hides a lot of problems

Chapter six of Cook's book argues everything is sales: no sales means no clients, and without clients you're not self-employed but unemployed. Lots of sales also tends to make other problems disappear, because with enough clients you can figure everything else out. The caveat is that revenue can mask problems that later escalate, so the goal is to sell while also building systems.

  • No sales means no clients, which means unemployed not self-employed
  • Enough clients lets you solve almost every other problem
  • The dangerous moment is having to find clients and fix everything at once
  • Money coming in can hide problems you stop paying attention to
  • Ideal is making sales while simultaneously building systems and processes

everything is sales because if you don't make sales then you don't have clients and if you don't have clients you're not self-employed you're unemployed

Jodie Cook · 1:01:00
#sales#business#systems#revenue
Takeaway1:41:30

Stand out by being genuinely impressive, not by scattergun applying

Cook and Abdaal agree that the way to get noticed, whether pitching for work or emailing a busy person, is going far above and beyond in effort. Cook's agency made applicants 'impress us', invoking Cialdini's Influence: the harder something is to get into, the more you value it. Abdaal urges job-seekers to make a video for two or three target companies rather than blasting 5,000 CVs.

  • Effort and specificity make cold emails and applications stand out
  • Cook's agency told applicants to 'impress us', and they made videos and characters
  • Cialdini's Influence: hard-to-join things get valued more (fraternities, Navy SEALs)
  • Abdaal: make a video for 2-3 dream companies, not 5,000 generic CVs
  • Take the sniper approach, not the scattergun

the harder it is to get into somewhere the more you'll be like ah I earn this I value it I'm going to make the…

Jodie Cook · 1:42:00
#standing-out#job-search#influence#outreach