The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.
“we need our emotions to problem solve creatively”
“there's also this myth that men are more logical than women and women are more emotional it's absolutely a lie it's just not true at…”
“it's a mistake to marry a woman before she's 20 years old”
“that's the only age thing I know of that uh has really held up in the research”
“gay and lesbian couples are a lot less defensive um when their partner presents a point of view”
“there wasn't as much competition and dominance struggling for you know like who's going to win this argument it was much more equal”
“we had couples just come into the lab after being apart for”
“while they were talking we had synchronized physiological data we collected from them sort of measuring heart rate respiration blood velocity things like that”
“we discovered that the Masters even in Conflict had five times as much positive emotion as negative”
“whereas the disasters that ratio of positive to negative average 0.8”
“we discovered that in 15 minutes of conflict the number of times a listener heard something contemptuous predicted how many infectious illnesses they would have…”
“the people who experience more contempt got sicker over time”
“the man thinks as he listens to her that he should offer her a solution to whatever she stressed about wrong that's going to feel…”
“not feeling alone is the big stress reducer not getting a solution to a problem”
“the biggest difference is that women need emotional closeness in order to be”
“women need to understand that uh their men are looking for emotional closeness through sex”
“one study done at UCLA at this loan center found that with dual career couples in Los Angeles they spend less than 10 percent of…”
“fathers make a unique contribution to the intellectual and Social Development of the both sons and daughters”
“what they found was that relationships were what really predicted longevity”
“it's not really the institution of marriage it's the quality of the relationship that makes the difference”
“I had dated 60 women in one summer just kind of making it my purpose to find a partner and Julie was number 61”
“I could tell this cat was very”
“it doesn't really matter whether you know she's the captain or he's the captain or nobody's the captain they decide by consensus as long as…”
“they found that people drifting apart was the major reason for divorce it wasn't Affairs”
“if you find yourself being lonely in the relationship that's an excellent marker that you need a therapist to help you”
“two-thirds of couples have this big drop in relationship happiness in the first three years of their baby's life”
“in just 10 hours 80 percent of couples avoid that drop in relationship happiness”
“look for how this person treats”
“if they blame the breakup totally on the other person you're in trouble forget it they're not owning responsibility for their part in whatever went…”
“quite often people write books just on the basis of their own intuition and their own experience and quite often they come up with bad…”
“I've kept track of my ideas and my hypotheses are wrong sixty percent of the time”